Can I come back to the blog world? Will you all take me back, even though I’ve been gone forever and I’m behind on everyone’s blogs? I’ve really missed the friendship and support I found here. I’ve wondered how everyone is, and I have meant to come read and comment and write this blog post but time keeps getting away from me.
This summer has been interesting. It’s been both really, really good and crazy making difficult. Early on in the summer, Kat and I developed a schedule and our days and weeks ran really smooth. So my days have typically gone like this:
–Early morning get up and clean house
–yoga on my deck outside, surrounded by trees, blue sky, and the water
–wake kiddo, and after breakfast (yeah, i eat breakfast now!) head off to the gym for a swim with Kat and yoga class on my own while she plays with other kids
–home and lunch break, pack for the beach and spend the rest of the day at the beach
–dinner and then snuggles with Kat while we watch a show or movie, then bedtime yoga
–actually fall asleep before midnight
So. The summer started out wonderfully. I’ve been feeling more grounded in myself and present in my days and I’ve been able to be calmer and control my emotions. Things have been good for me. I’ve felt much more in control of all of me and all of my life, and much more authentic and real.
The struggle has been when hubby is around, I’m on edge. Being more grounded in my body means that I am so very aware of the little touches on my shoulder, hugs, a kiss….it means that I am so aware of how close hubby is to me. It puts me on edge and sends me into this hyper aware crazy place.
The struggle has been that my mother planned family events every weekend in July. I skipped the first and last events, but spending two long weekends in a row with her was stressful and difficult. She is so incredibly focused on things being picture perfect and I really had been so focused on living authentically that being around my mother and her need for the fake me caused a lot of panic and anxiety.
Now that it’s August, I’m working hard to get back to our routine from the beginning of summer but it’s been hard. I had a trauma memory get dredged up from the depths of my crazy head, and I have been up and down ever since. My brother is also getting married in six weeks, and HE will be at the wedding. The parts have been worried and scared and sick over that little fact.
So…..there’s a very short update of how things have been. I’ll dive deeper into how things have been, what’s going on with therapy, with relationships, with the little girl next time.
I hope everyone is well and has been able to enjoy the summer.
So glad your back! Thought of you often and always hoped you were doing well. Glad you are!
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Thank you for the warm welcome back. I have to admit, I was a little afraid if I came back I would be ignored for ignoring everyone and disappearing for so long. Thank you for not holding that against me. Xx
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I was so happy to get the notification that you had commented on my blog tonight. I had missed your posts and wondered if you were okay. I’m glad your summer has been mostly positive. Hard to believe school is right around the corner again.
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Thank you for saying this. I was really anxious about posting again— all kinds of awful, everyone is going to ignore me thoughts– so this is really great. It is so hard to believe school is starting in just a few weeks. I’m so not ready to send Kat back to school. I hope your summer has been good. Xx
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I know what you mean. LM starts on the 14th and he’s really upset that it’s almost time. We have had a nice, but very busy, summer!
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The 14th of August? Wow, that is even sooner than us. We start after Labor Day.
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Yeah, they got out at the very end of May, so probably a little earlier than other areas. I sure wish we had a couple more weeks!
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We got out like June 6 or something, but this next year we go until June 16! What is up with that?!?!? I’m like, ummmm, my kiddo is going to be taking some “self care” days. 😂😂🙈🙈
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Oh my lord! For real, we call them “mental health” days in our house and LM doesn’t hesitate to request them!
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Alice! It’s so good to hear from you and to know that at least some parts of the summer are going well for you. Reading about “living authentically” is inspiring. I look forward to hearing more about everything.
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Thank you Q. It feels really wonderful to read your that you are glad to hear from me. I’m really glad to be back. I missed all you guys. Xx
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And likewise, we missed you.
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As my daughter says “you gave me warm fuzzies.” 🙂💟 Thank you.
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Hiiiiii I’ve thought about you a lot and hoped you were okay. Really glad to see you back! 😀
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Hi!!! Thank you Sirena. This really made me smile. I’m so glad to hear from you. Xx
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Welcome back! I’m not around much anymore either.
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Thank you. 💟xx
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“Little fact?” I’m sorry that asshole criminal will be at the wedding, soiling it with his presence.
Sounds like a nice summer in-between those tough times.
I’ve wondered how you are doing. So good to see you here.
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Thank you…. It has been a pretty lovely summer. I’m really glad to be back here. I’ve truly missed it.
As for the “little fact”, well you know, I’m still trying to downplay the impact it’s having on me. I’m not quite ready to face it. 😬
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I wish there was at least one person who knew the truth of his crimes and could be your ally.
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I guess that is Bea’s job right now, and maybe one day hubby’s. I also have all my blog friends. Kay was supposed to come and be extra support, but she’s still not speaking to me, so……
Thank you for your wish for me. Maybe one day. Xx
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I’m so glad to see a post from you! I had been worried that the silence meant that things were awful and am happy to hear that it was more that you were simply living your life! Good for you!!!
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Thank you. I’m relieved that people are glad to hear from me. 💟xx
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Yay! Alice, you’re back! Just a few days ago I came back to read through some of your old blog posts, and wished you would post just so we’d know if you were okay. Guess a genie or a fairy godmother must have been listening. I’m so glad that things have been (mostly) good for you.
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Awwww….thank you. It feels really good to hear I was missed. 💟xx
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Yay, so glad you are back, missed your blog and glad to know you are doing ok ❤️
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Thank you. 🙂 It feels really good to be back and it means a lot to hear I was missed. 💟xx
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Good to hear from you xo
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Thank you Andi– you, too. 💟xx
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Hey!! So good to see you here. Xox. I missed you.
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Hey back!! 🙂 thanks for the warm welcome back. I missed you too. 💟xx
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Welcome back!! So good to see this post. I have been thinking of you, and checked your site not too long ago, to see if somehow you just weren’t showing in my feeder.
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Thank you. It’s nice to hear you had been thinking of me and wondering. It surprises me that people would miss me. ☺️ I’m really glad to be back. I missed the community we have here. Xx
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